Before you do anything, it’s important to be aware of the fundamentals that will later help you a lot. One of these is mindset.
Your own thoughts.
When you understand and accept that your own thoughts shape you, then you can step up. I can give you many examples of this, but let’s break down this topic instead.
The first part: the thoughts you have about yourself. The most important thing here is that whatever you think about yourself, it will be true.
Let me write this again, because it’s very important: whatever you think about yourself, it will be true.
If you believe you can’t do something, you won’t be able to. If you think you’re not good enough for something, then indeed, you won’t be good enough. Of course, the opposite is also true. If you believe you’re capable of something, then you will be. Even if it seems very difficult at first, you will find the right path. I think of myself as capable of anything. I just need to find the right how-tos, and often tasks that initially seem very difficult turn out to be easy.
The other part is what you think about others. Here, I mainly want to talk about jealousy. Many people, when they see a successful person, think that they must have stolen their money, or they were just lucky, or they say, “Screw them.” Instead, when I see a successful person, I rejoice in their success. If I can talk to them, I ask them how they achieved it, hoping to learn from them. Don’t hesitate to approach such a person for a conversation. I’m often asked how I built my business, and I’m happy to talk about it. So, I approach others without a hint of jealousy, but rather with respect and joy in their success. So, the essence of all this is to try to let go of negative thoughts and bring positive thoughts to the forefront. For example, I did this by immediately replacing any negative thoughts with positive ones. This is not easy at all. Everyone has positive experiences they can remember. If you catch yourself filled with negative thoughts, switch to memories or experiences that bring you joy. Take it step by step. For example, if you encounter a stranger on the street who doesn’t seem appealing for some reason, instead of dwelling on that, find at least one thing you like about them. Maybe they have beautiful hair. Or the color of their shoes is nice. Anything.
Then there’s another very important aspect of mindset. That is, concerning what others think about you. In my circle of acquaintances, there were many people who dreaded what others would think of them. What does it really matter to you what others think of you? I couldn’t care less about what others think of me. It simply doesn’t interest me. For example, when I dress, I choose comfortable clothes. I don’t wear something to give others the impression that I have a lot of money. I don’t do something just to make others think well of me. I simply don’t care about what a stranger on the street imagines about me in their mind. It doesn’t make me any better or worse. So why bother? It’s a waste of time that steals your time from valuable things. If you manage to “adjust” your thoughts well, many things will turn out better in your life. One big advantage, for example, is that like attracts like. So suddenly, people will appear in your life who think similarly to you. Although this is also true if you’re negative. I’ll write more about these in a separate blog post.
The essence of all this: your thoughts shape you. Whatever you think about yourself, it will be true. You don’t have to agree with me. Try it out and see if it works!